Anonymous asked: can you write a post on crip sex?

There is a lot that I think can be said about that actually.  I think the majority of the non-disabled tends to to think of us as asexual.  It’s not even close to reality of course.  For obvious reasons I’m most familiar with sci crippiness so I think my thoughts on this subject are more complete in that narrow area.  Also, I simply have experience with that having an sci myself.  However I think that there are very few differences when it comes to how society perceives us as sexual beings.  That I think is a some what separate topic, though it certainly is related, which deserves it’s own post.

So sex, a fun topic for anyone I think.  Cripples enjoy it as much as everyone, even when our sensation is not so great.  For obvious reasons our ability to do certain sexual activities is less than an able bodied person , but that just means we focus on the things we can do.  Men and women have different difficulties when it comes sex and an sci. Truth be told for women in most cases sensation is the biggest difference when it comes to actually having sex.  Unless of course the lady happens to enjoy being on top then it get tricky do to lack of mobility but that is a matter of practice.  And who wouldn’t want to practice? Women have other issues that men don’t have with an sci but sex usually, not always but usually, is much easier for them.  Male anatomy doesn’t function normally after an sci in the majority of cases while female anatomy tends to function normal or close to normal  Let’s face it female sex organs are just built tougher than male sex organs, which is why I never got why calling someone a pussy meant weak.  The pussy is definitely not the weaker sex.

Men have many problems mostly surrounding erectile function on fertility.  Most males with an sci can get a physically stimulated erection but its not consistent.  There are medical fixes for this problem of course but they are expensive and a lot of people can’t afford them.  If you can get a stimulated erection its usually a good thing to just practice getting it to work.  Again practice can be fun to do and if you and your partner get good at it, its healthier for you in the long run.  ejaculation is always a problem.  Most guys have difficulty with it or can’t do it at all or without assistance.  Most guys with an sci who want that can do it via a vibrator but not all so I hope if you have an sci you’re one of those people.

For the most part I find it enjoyable to do other things.  I highly suggest getting good at oral sex.  Male or female a cripple can still perform oral like a champ.  Get good with your hands and consider using toys.  Toys can add to your arsenal of skills.  

Sex isn’t just about intercourse.  Though that is important if you’re good at other things cripple sex can be fantastic.  It really just takes understanding your body, your desire for the mount of activity you want, and having a partner who wants to spend the time figuring out what works and what doesn’t.

I hope that’s what you were wanting to know anon.  If you have any more questions you know where my ask box is.

Happy blogging everyone.